Asking Someone Out on a Date

If you like someone and want to know them more, you may have to ask them for a date. This is a standard practice for men, and it is increasingly becoming common among women. If you have someone in mind that you would love to go out with, breathe deeply and follow these guidelines.

Ask yourself first – Know why you are asking them out and if it is for the right reasons. Recognize your expectations as a result of them saying yes or no.

Saying no is a possibility – Be prepared that the person you ask may say no. If this happens, do not take the rejection personally and do not chase them as well. They maybe thinking of things and get back to you with a “yes” later.

Choose the right moment – See to it that the person you are asking is in a light mood. At certain instances, do not approach them when they are stressed out after work, while eating, or while with a group of friends.

Practice what you should say – Don’t think of the cheesiest pick-up line imaginable. A simple “Hi! My name is…and I was wondering if you are free for lunch today?” is enough. Practice what you might say in advance so that you don’t appear tongue-tied.

Avoid asking them out while drunk – You may think that taking a shot before asking would boost your courage level, actually it’s not. It would backfire, too.

Prepare the place, date, and time, in advance – Before asking them out, be sure that you already have an idea where and when your date would be, just in case they say yes. In this way, you are showing that you are thoughtful.

Create a sense of trust immediately – If the person asks you why you want to date them, flatter about his or her personality. People can be wary and may want to know some reason behind your request. You can say, “I have always thought you are great fun…”

Do not pressure them into saying yes – If they want to think about it, let them. But don’t chase.

Smile – Bring out your positive personality. Be confident and happy to elicit a far more positive response.

Prepare for an alternative schedule – If they are unsure about their schedule, or your proposed date schedule conflicts theirs, provide a different date and time or location.

Intend to go on your date – Standing people up is a definite no-no in dating.

Getting a Girl: Ten Ways To Blow It In A Relationship

What do you do when you've attracted a lovely person into your life and now you're terrified you're going to blow it? Or, terrified it's going to end?
Arm yourself with the following strategies, and you're sure to blow it in a relationship right from the start.

1. Assume the person is your soul mate immediately upon meeting or shortly thereafter. Look for signs that faith has brought you together and be amazed by the correlations in your lives.

2. Forget about your life, your friends, your self-care. When you have a soul mate, why would you need a life outside of the relationship?

3. Reveal everything, and test your partner with your worst behavior. Let it all hang out. After all, if this is truly your soul mate, he or she will love you no matter what.

4. Have sex right away. If you are meant to be together for a lifetime, you might as well get started on the fun part right away.

5. Ignore anything about your partner that does not mesh with your values, lifestyle, or belief system. True love can conquer such insignificant differences.

6. Do lots of drama together. Job, family, and life crises are great ways to establish a relationship and test whether or not you are meant to be together.

7. Spend as much time together as possible. When it's true love, you can't bear to let your partner out of your sight.

8. Ignore behavior that crosses your boundaries or hurts your feelings. It's true love, so it's ok.

9. Lavish a huge amount of attention on your partner or expect a huge amount of attention to be lavished on you. How else would you act if you finally found your soul mate?

10. Push the relationship forward and demand that it go deeper, in spite of where your partner is emotionally. You have the right to have the relationship be exactly how you want it to be and your soul mate owes you that.

How to Make Your Ex Miss You!

Tired of chasing after your ex, only to be ignored? Has your ex stopped listening to all your pleadings, to the point he or she won't even take your calls? You may be making the number one mistake of all persons who find themselves without their latest love, which is, begging and pleading for his or her return. The fact is, you may be doing the exact opposite of your desire and driving your ex forever from your life. Stop. Just stop the insanity. Cease all contact. Make as if you have fallen off the face of the earth. This may be very difficult at first. Give these tips your very best attention and time, you may be shocked at the results!
Now that you have stopped the begging and pleading ploy. Take this opportunity to decide how you can better occupy your thoughts and time. Start a hobby. Catch up on your reading. Any activity that you enjoy and will keep your thoughts away from your ex. You were a great person before and with your ex and you still are! Develop those things about you that make you an exciting person to be around! You will be stunned to discover that your ex will sit up and take notice of your sudden disappearing act from his or her life!
Play catch up with old friends and family. It is perfectly acceptable for you to go out and enjoy yourself! Have a great time! And why not? You deserve it! Celebrate. Simply have a great time, simply because you want to! You don't need a reason, other than you need to get out of the apartment and have relax! Do not try to make your ex jealous or talk poorly about him or her, unless you have made the final decision that you are finished with that relationship.
You will be glad that you have turned the tables, in a sense, on your ex. You are no longer sitting home alone, pining over your loss. You are actively stepping back into and getting on with your ex. Your ex will want to know what prompted this change in you. What on earth, could you have found that is far more interesting than him or her? How is it that you look and seem to feel better than ever about yourself without him or her? Let that be your secret, and you will be shocked to find your ex snooping around to find out what happened to you!